Week 31

     The theatre was closing and the parking lot had emptied, all the while we embraced in the car. It wasn't the first time I had hugged her, but it was the first time I properly held her in my arms. After a moment we separated, just far enough to be able to look into each other's eyes. Time passes. Too much. With a slightly furrowed brow she asks, " Sooo are you going to kiss me?" God, I was nervous. I leaned in and our lips touch. It's not my first kiss. But it may as well be.

     I've always loved kissing. It's one of my favorite things. I just find the act to be so...spiritual. That's a really weird word to use right there, but it's true. As cliche and sappy as it may sound, I consider kissing to be the way souls touch. Ugh, even I hate myself for actually typing that sentence. But, nonetheless, that's how I feel.

     Kissing isn't just one thing. It can't be summed up and dropped into a little box with a bow on it. A kiss is so much more. A kiss can say hello, or be a last goodbye. It can tell someone you love them, or just let them know you like them. It's a handshake, a first dance, a congratulations. A kiss is an agreement, to surrender a piece of yourself to someone else, if only for a moment.

Unless you're drunk. Then a kiss is just means you're trying to get some.

     As I slowly made my way down the frozen section of the Ralph's, only half way taking in what I see, I notice a shrill cry cutting through the air. Near the front entrance, a couple pushes a screaming child in a cart. "Stop it, Johnny!" the woman yells. Johnny continues to cry out. "Stop it, Johnny! Just Stop it!" Dear God Johnny, just listen to her kid. I push my cart away from the spectacle, until Johnny's tantrum is far behind me. 

I wonder if Johnny's parents still kiss?

Week 30

I didn't make my bed this morning....

     The movie starts soon and I still need to the wake up. Time for breakfast? Only if I want to wait until tomorrow. I better get up. Yup, gonna get up. Any minute now. Ah, here we go. A face cloth and tooth brush later and I'm staring at my unmade bed. There's no time.  I mean sure there's time but really there isn't.

     Shit! It's dad's birthday. It's already 1:30pm back home and I haven't called or texted anyone. He did tell me that they were going to a show. I can probably wait to call. Ugh, but if I do he'll say I didn't care enough about him to call. Ring. Ring. Ring. No answer. Of course. The bed will have to wait.

     It's not until I'm in Simi Valley that I start to remember what I've heard about Simi Valley. So far no cop cars in sight. Fingers crossed that I won't be a hashtag before the credits roll. Corndog bites and civil rights. It's enough to make me cry. I do cry, though not because of the corndog. This movie makes me think. About life and the struggles of being black. Also about how no person nor relationship is perfect. 

     Dad calls during the show. I wish him happy birthday after the credits have rolled. I have to call back later for our talk. I know I have to but I really wish I didn't. Thinking and driving. I know she would've loved that movie. I'll talk to her about it later. I still need to make my bed.

     A healthcare shopping spree and one rebuilt toilet later and I'm finally ready for breakfast. It's 9:30pm. I fold my sheets as the bacon cooks. Pretty sure I'm doing life wrong. She calls me soon after. I like our talks, even if they're mostly disagreements. She tells me she loves me. I say I love you too. It's nice to really mean it. Nothing left but to show the day away.

Ugh. Why did I make my bed today?

Week 29

2015 To Do List

I should've started this when I still had a full bottle of wine.....

• Learn how to properly start lists.
• Stop hating the mirror. It's not the mirror's fault.
• Write more.
• Read more.
• Realize that writing this list and reading it doesn't count.

• Love yourself.
• Seriously, love yourself.
• Reread last two items.
• FUCKING LOVE YOURSELF!
• Stop cursing so much.
• Fuck that.

• Make HER love you.
• On second thought, forget about HER. SHE's been nothing but trouble.
• Find a way to be happy about going to work again.
• Realize that that last item means find a job you like doing.
• Accept your flaws.
• Realize it's ok to cry...but NEVER do it.
• Stop going out of your way for people who won't do the same.
• Or keep doing it. Just makes you the better person.
• Share your true feelings more willingly.
• Actually, keep that shit to yourself. Trust me on this one.
• Find reasons to fear death again.

• Forgive more.
• Drink less. More. Just keep drinking.
• Make someone proud.
• Smile, and mean it.
• And at the end of the day...at the end of everyday....look into your heart, and do whatever the hell makes you happy.

25/14

 
 It all started with a party. The first I'd ever had. I remember spending the entire day cleaning the basement and worrying that no one would show up. Within the hour there were more people in my basement than I could count. That night I drank and danced and shot the shit with a group of people I had barely known a year earlier. The clock reached zero, ball dropped, and everyone cheered. Not a bad way to spend the first moment of the year.

Two days later I was 25. I remember thinking about how I didn't feel any different. Just another year of being caught in that limbo of being either too young or too old for everyone else's liking. Still, despite having most of my friends forget or bail, I managed to use the occasion to drink and dance the night away. Then January 4th came along, and the year officially started for me.

Waiting. Waiting. More and more waiting. From January to March, there was nothing but waiting. And then one day the phone rings, and someone tells me I'm the new Associate Producer. I say thank you and hang up. My stomach drops. The next 3 months are a whirlwind. I struggle and thrive. I prove to myself I can do it, which is what's important, I suppose.

How about spending a couple weeks in June out in L.A. to get a feel for the place? Don't mind if I do. At least that's what I was thinking. 2 days in L.A. and I find myself in an office surrounded by producers who are firing questions at me. All I can think about is what I was wearing. Smiles and nods and a "we'll call you in a few days" and I'm out the door. 2 days after that and I'm working my first job in California. On a beach. I wonder what will happen in the next 2 days? Also, I wonder if I should've asked the tour guide for her number?

And then it happened. After 3+ years of feeling cold, trapped, and hopeless for any kind of future, I suddenly found myself with a California mailing address. There are some days where it still doesn't feel real. 

I've never really been one who likes to look back and sum up an entire year. Good shit and bad shit happen all of the time, no matter what the date is. But I'd be remiss if I didn't look back and see this year for what it was. Over the last 365 days I've made strides that I weren't sure were possible. I've felt joy and anxiety. Jump in excitement and screamed in rage. I was afraid. I cried. I fell in love again. I did enough to say, in the most unintentionally ironic way possible, this year was my year. And for the first time ever, I'm excited for what's to come.